Scripture: Nehemiah 13:23-25
In those days I also saw that the Jews had married women from Ashdod, Ammon and Moab. As for their children, half spoke in the language of Ashdod, and none of them was able to speak the language of Judah, but the language of his own people. So I contended with them and cursed them and struck some of them and pulled out their hair, and made them swear by God, "You shall not give your daughters to their sons, nor take of their daughters for your sons or for yourselves.
Insights: This command of God had nothing to do with genetic purity. It had nothing to do with race or ethnic distinction. Part of the reason we know this is because of Jesus’ own lineage. In it you have Rahab a Canaanite woman and Ruth a Moabite woman. What it dealt with was spiritual holiness and righteousness before God. Israel was God’s children and He desired them to be fully His and He knew that if they intermarried with those from Ashdod, Ammon and Moab, they were more than likely going to defile their love for Him in order to please their spouses. It was for this same reason that Paul admonishes Christians to not be unequally yoked with lost people (2 Cor. 6:14). As a pastor I have heard so many Christians involved in a relationship with a lost person tell me God was telling them to marry the person and then lead that person to Jesus for salvation. There are two problems with this statement I have heard. One, God did not tell them that because He never contradicts Scripture and Paul’s letter to the church of Corinth has explicitly stated not marry such an individual. Two, if a person is lying down and another is trying to pull them up off of the ground; the one on the ground has the advantage. It is easier for him to pull the other person down than it is for the other one to pull him up. The same is true in relationships. More often than not I have watched the believer get pulled down in the relationship and soon God is not even a factor in the believer’s life. I mentioned this passage earlier this week, but I mention it again here for the same truth applies. “Bad company corrupts good morals (1 Corinthians 15:33).” If you are a believer and have been truly born again and you are in a relationship with an unbeliever, then I would strongly encourage you to not follow the example of the people of Nehemiah’s day. End the relationship and ask God to bring you a godly spouse.
- Are you cultivating a romantic relationship with an unbeliever?
- Are you contemplating uniting this relationship into an unequally yoked marriage?
Prayer: Father, the heart is such a dangerous thing to us humans. Protect Your children from themselves and give them the wisdom necessary to make holy decisions. Amen.